Love is not easily Offended.....


I have been working relentlessly on a few dreams I have.  I know that one cannot make all your dreams come true, but I am outcome based, so if I have an idea, I just go with it!!!  Only after I have done everything possible to make it a reality, do I sometimes sit back and wonder if I even knew what I was doing.....

(also, sometimes my dreamy ideas are total flops - but that is a post for another day!!!)

I am becoming increasingly aware of the fact that even though I really try my best, I just simply cannot please all the people all the time.  So I have come to accept and understand that I will offend a lot of people simply by just being me......

I also get offended.  Not a lot - I have a pretty thick skin - but sometimes people's really strange comments, behaviour and attitude offends me.  Sometimes personally and sometimes I am offended on behalf of someone else.

I got offended yesterday when someone made a very snide comment on a public platform about something that I had been working on for a very long time, that finally came into fruition.  I felt hurt, extremely disappointed and I was actually stunned that someone would be so mean - especially as what I was working on was for the benefit of many people.

But then I thought about Love.  And how the only thing that should really matter to me is if I please God or not.....  and it hit me that when I get easily offended, I am not pleasing Him.  You could say that I had all the reason to be offended - true.  You could say that people should be more careful with what they do and say - true.  But the real truth is that if I believe God loves me unconditionally, it means that He does not get easily offended by me and my behaviour.  And because I love Jesus, I should try to emulate that Love.  So I should engrave the words of 1 Corinthians 13:5 into my heart, into my mind, into my soul - my inner being..........

"Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable/easily offended/easily provoked or resentful...."

I found this piece this morning while I was trying to align my deflated ego with what the Lord expects of me.......

Thank you, Emma Joy!!!

I would like to reserve the right to become highly offended on occasion. I would like to be allowed the occasional biting retort or the well-timed pity party. I won't abuse it. I promise.

Unfortunately, this verse doesn’t give any qualifications like “except when you are wronged” or “except when you are having a bad day” or “except when [insert favorite excuse here]”.  It just says, “Love is not easily offended.” Period. Full-stop. End of story.
Our excitement of the day today was testing the alarm system in the school. We’ve had a lot of theft on the base lately, and so I decided to figure out how to work this alarm system, which has been sitting unused for the past three years. We discovered that it sets off this HUGE siren, the sound of which makes your heart leap in your chest and instantly starts your adrenaline pumping.
This is something akin to the feeling I get when someone points out a flaw in me. Let’s just say, I don’t take it well. My fight or flight reflexes instantly kick into full gear. Fortunately, God must have known my propensity to take offense and hence did not gift me with the ability to come up with very witty comebacks. In such an instance, I’m usually speechless even though I’m fuming inside and spend the next two days thinking of exactly the right words I should have said to put that person in their place. (And let me tell you, I can come up with some real zingers.)
But God seems dead-set on working out all these little bumps or flaws in our character and living in community on a base like this provides Him with ample opportunity to do so. What a great responsibility He has given us, who call ourselves “Christians”, in entrusting us to be the representation of His love in this earth, and even more so those of us who call ourselves “missionaries.”  I shudder to think sometimes of what a poor picture my life is painting of God’s love. If all that a person ever saw or experienced of God was my life, what would He look like to them? Probably, not very good, I must admit. And so God is ever refining my love, testing me, prodding me, pushing me with a fervor which is not deterred by my complaints or slowed by my failures and is totally unaffected by my offended ego until some day, hopefully, people can look at my life and see only His.
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